When I was still in my primary studies, I remember I was excelling all the art competitions. Modesty aside, I was actually running to get the Best in Arts award, but had to beg-off from the selection process since my academics were failing.
I feared my dad. I feared him that he would be castigating me if I won’t graduate.
At that time, I already knew—what I want. I just wanted to graduate and set aside my first love. But mind you, my second love was already lurking around the corner—and that’s writing.
What happened to my first love?
Just like any other first love… it never died, it’s just there; it stayed there at the backseat. Life goes on. As I grew older, my preferences and my passion changed. As soon as I stepped into my secondary studies—I knew well that I want to write.
I want to make art through words. I want to make art by putting together texts to describe images that will not evoke the five senses, but will even awaken the minds of my probable readers. But, was that my only aim?
For most writers, the first goal is ‘to be heard’; and not just that—to be read as well. I, too, wanted to be read, but with only the right people, who resonate with what I write. I do not seek greater audience and not necessarily the approval from those who read my stuff. I want to draw conversations with the hopes of building friendships, and eventually relationships. I want to develop the craft of intimacy in my writing.
Intimidation paralyzes intimacy.
Almost all the successful writers encountered failures. One way or the other—they’ve experienced rejection in any form. Writing is rewarding, but it takes not just guts, but thick-skinned people to make it or succeed in this chosen path.
Always remember writing is not a fad. It’s not any gadget that you want it then you update it after the latest model comes along. Writing is a commitment. It’s like having a relationship. It can be complicated most of the times, but your commitment must not waver, whether it may seem inconvenient.
To go on with writing, there are three things one must take into account. First, when writing—the writer has the CONTROL over things. It is in the writer’s hands (literally) what he or she can write about and get to bait his or her readers to grab the message he or she is trying to throw into the world. Any writer has the power to control what outcome he or she envisions his or her writing would be. It’s up to the kind of material or end-product he or she can offer for his or her ‘intended’ readers to consume. It’s like creating a demand.
Second, any writer won’t reach the statuses of most-celebrated and best-selling authors, if he or she won’t take the risk and be invisible. Just write not for anyone, but for yourself first. Do not mind what the critics might have to say about your work. Beat your number one enemy: the critic[s] in your head. Before you get intimated, just write.
Lastly, as soon you done your piece—always bear in mind that the writing process does not end when you finish writing something. It’s just half of it. The real reward for writing is when one is able to touch the hearts of your ‘captive’ readers. If that got to them, got affected and do something about it—then you have accomplished your purpose. Writing is like paying it forward. When your reader[s] get[s] to accept the idea you presented and he or she would pass it on to any possible reader that would resonate to what you have written—you have achieved your purpose.
As a writer, one is like being intimate with one’s self and with your readers. I think that’s what every writer must meet, primarily.